Roger on that one. If it (it, which really means you) doesn't get better, then you're not learning anything.
Exactly. Like I said, it's taken 24 years to get this far, and it shows no sign of declining any time soon. Why in the name of trees would I want to start from scratch?
I suppose I do it simply because I can - it's fun to do different things with different girls. My friends all accuse me of moving from girl to girl too often and not having committed relationships, but commitment isn't what I'm after at this stage in my life. I just can't imagine only being with one woman - I get bored way too easily. I guess for me the thrill is in the chase, and once I'm done chasing, the thrill is gone.
So you're telling me that you made yourself wait until you graduated high school... and 10 months later you've used enough skanks to post like this?
But when you're approaching it from the point of view of the "chase" and the "score" and the objective being self-congratulation, you're not going to find someone you want to spend more than one night with. It's something of a self-fullfilling prophecy.
Let me put it another way. Relationships are about much much more than sex. When you find the right person, you know you'll never be bored with them.
Like I said, I've never been a "grass is greener" guy. If you lose interest in something as soon as you get it, you wanted the wrong thing the first place.
IMHO.
Hey, with the right woman, you can do both. In one night.
With the right woman, you can do both at the same
time.
But it's an important part of it, and I think people should have sex before they get married. What if it's not good? Maybe you don't match in bed, there's no chemistry. This things happen, and I wouldn't want to find that out only after I married the person.
Roger
that, too. You'll never find someone you can spend a lifetime with by having sex with a lot of different people. But you can eliminate a few you might have
thought you could spend a lifetime with, without messy divorces. You need to start with the personality, though, and
then try the sex, not vice versa.
You can have a perfectly healthy relationship without sex. How do you think old people get along?
Seriously though, sex is not necessary to make a happy marriage. If you can have a healthy happy dating relationship and not have sex, what makes marriage any different? All marriage means is that you commit to stay with that one person for the rest of your life.
Here's a big hint for you -
old people have sex.
It is possible to have a happy marriage without sex -
if both partners have a low sex drive, and are in agreement ahead of time. If you're committing to one person for the rest of your life, you'd better make darn sure of that before hand. The mismatches are what make the divorce rate high.
I worry about that occasionally, but I've never been a big believer in the 'there's one person out there for everyone' theory, so I think I'll get a couple of chances.
Well, good luck with that. There's definitely ONE person for me. Even when I've wanted to kill her, I've rarely wanted to leave her. And on those rare occasions back in the day when I
did leave her, I never managed to stay gone.
