look or personality

[Zac007]

What do you think is more important if your looking for a partner their looks or personality?

 

[Camaroyenko]

In between.

 

[photonrider]

Business partner? Capital and some know-how .

Hiking partner? Stuff.

Living-together partner? Personality. Looks go away . . .personality may get better. Usually.

 

[Phoenix]

Personality... If she's good looking, its just a bonus

But as Camaroyenko said, somewhere in between.

 

[Dravonic]

I actually look for both, but if I have to choose, then I would say personality.

I might be able to stand a boring girl just by looking at her pretty face, but not for long

 

[Slick Rick]

Combination of looks and personality, If she looks good but has flaws i could put up with it If a girls got a good personality but not a looker id probably get bored and move on....

 

[Acheron79]

If your in a position to be picky (Ie chisled good looks, body of a greek god) then you should bide your time... If however you fell out the ugly tree and hit many branches on the way to your imminent date with terra firma (like me) personality is the way to go compadre!

 

[homeforsummer]

Mix of both here too. I'm shallow enough that looks do matter (I'm not talking supermodels here but someone pretty at least), but I'd quickly be driven utterly insane if I was with someone utterly personality free, or someone annoying.

 

[BobbyBRAKEaNek]

Personality goes a long way and looks don't. That pretty and no personality chick could miss that last step and land on her grill, then what do you have left..........

 

[zedextreme8177]

I have a bias for personality, looks are a bonus IMHO

I'm lucky to have a partner who fills all the criteria I wanted

 

[Lizard]

Personality.

 

[C-ZETA]

I always end up liking people with better looks more (as my ex-crush proved) but better personality is definitely more fun to live with. If you can get both, then that's good on you.

 

[NotThePrez]

I have a bias for personality, looks are a bonus IMHO

This. As stated earlier, looks only go so far.

 

[ECGadget]

Personality, looks are a bonus. As a good friend of mine once said:

"Don't be fooled by Appearance and don't fall in love with an image. Look at the heart. Looks will change but a heart will stay the same" - Celeste Kellogg

 

[Crumpet]

Looks.. What is the worst a girl can get in terms of personality..

 

[rocko100]

Looks.. What is the worst a girl can get in terms of personality..

^

 

[Crumpet]

Her teeth, are they fake or stolen?

 

[Solo]

Lucky enough to have both (apart from when 21 year olds start trying to ask my 16 year old girlfriend out ) But personality is definitely most important, as why would you want to be with someone who you are nothing like and have no similarities to?

 

[Joey D]

Anyone that say they aren't interested in looks probably has never had a long term partner or really even been in a relationship. You have to be attracted to the person to some degree. I'm not talking supermodel calibre, but as long as they have something that you find sexually pleasing then you'll be find.

Personality is definitely more important though. A less attractive girl can be made more attractive with a good personality just as an attractive girl can be spoiled by a bad personality.

 

[Akira AC]

Looks.

Personalities are pretty generic.

And intelligence is something else.

 

[Michael88]

Appearance of a person says a lot about their personality so I wouldn't totally separate looks from personality.

Sooo, for me its a 50/50 thing, both things are equally important, I could never have an ugly partner with a great personality (and visa versa), it wouldn't work out because no matter what you say, sexual attraction plays a huge role in a partnership. If you deny this you're denying your nature, your instincts and lying to yourself.

That's how I see it.

 

[motortrend]

Looks attract you initially, personality keeps you interested.

 

[Bigbazz]

Combination, girls with the right personality can be more attractive. I've seen some in pictures that i think "yeah, i would" and then seeing them in real life thinking "wow she is amazing, how did i not see?"

Looks and personality are interweaved, and there is a lot more than just looks and personality to what makes someone attractive.

 

[Joel]

People who say looks don't matter are probably lying. They do matter to an extent, I don't need my girlfriend to be a supermodel drop dead gorgeous girl, but physical attraction is a must. What keeps you around is the girl's personality, and how engaging they are, how compatible the two of you are.

Everyone has a line they draw for looks, but a personality is very important.

 

[Jondot]

Both, I'm afraid. Looks not so much in the ma-hoosively shallow sense (since it's all in the eye of the beholder, and all that), but both it and personality are important. A little from column A & B tends to be a requirement for me. However, I tend to have a much broader taste when it comes to looks than personality.

Of course this is arbitrary on paper as the person I've felt the strongest thing for was mediocre in the looks department and had (well still has) a simply horrible personality. Such is life.

Does anybody know where I can buy a cat?

 

[Driving Park]

Both. For a relationship to be successful in the long term, you have to be attracted to your partner both physically and mentally. If it's on looks alone, it won't be long before you get annoyed with her personality and want out (unless you just happen to hook up with a hot girl you know nothing about and it turns out she has a personality that you love). If it's on personality alone, you might last longer but eventually you'll lose interest, take interest in other, more attractive girls, and (I predict) think of her more as a good friend or sibling than a partner. And, as others have said, looks are what draw you in to a person, because 99% of the time we see someone long before we can get a sample of their personality. At the very least you would probably feel there was something missing in the relationship. Unfortunately, it also works the other way around, and that's probably why my last girlfriend broke up with me.

 

[Dan_]

I'll go along with a dose of both worlds, she must be pretty to my eyes ( and again, as Jon said, beautyness is pretty much a matter of personal judgement ) but first and foremost, she must have a personality for you to admire.

There's so much more to women than just looks and personality, to me the eyes are pretty much a definitive factor (along with personality). They have to be expressive and make those moments that are hard to put in words, easy.

 

[Luminis]

I'm always trying to tell myself that I care about the personality so much that looks don't concern me as much, but they do. Not more than the personality, probably, but just as much.

If the personality's offputing, it won't work because we're going to get into fights over stupid stuff. If the looks are offputing, it's not gonna work out in bed, and we're gonna get into fights over that. Both sucks.

From experience, I can't do without either. If I had to chose, though, I'd go with looks. If the relationship is doomed anyways (which it would be if one is missing), I at least want to get some good memories of getting it on with a looker. And maybe get some bragging rights in the process.

 

[F1GTR]

Neither are actually mutually exclusive in real life.

 

[Bigbazz]

Anybody ever had the experience where either.

A. You didnt fancy the woman/girl, then she started talking and because of her voice you became attracted to her

or

B. You were attracted to the woman/girl, then she started talking and because of her voice you were instantly turned off.



Pretty sure both scenarios are true for me every day of the year.