The General Relationship Thread

[phillgt2002]

Please, spare us.

 

[CinnamonOD]

Doing what on purpose ?

How is she begging me unless I have a different interpretation of begging ?

I'll be quick and honest:
She wants a relationship with you and you don't want to notice the obvious, she has dropped hints towards that and she'll lose interest and move on, then you'll be left alone and wondering why she stopped looking for you.

Going to elaborate what @AlvaroF said:
Her behavior is now begging you to notice her interest; and to be honest you have already, but seeing that you've been ignoring our advice for some weeks now, I can predict that your next update here is wondering why is she doing weird things and/or mentioning her trying to make you finally make a 🤬 move

 

[CinnamonOD]

Sorry for the double post

There's this classmate who has a crush on me (her closer friends have told me), I don't, she's nice and all but I'm not attracted, we get to talk everyday because she works close to where I live and I take her there.

She's getting flirtier everyday.

How can I tell her that I don't like her, without hurting her feelings and keeping her as a really good friend?

I usually don't need help, but the "guru" as some friends refer to me when it comes to relationship advising will eventually need help. That time is now.

Anyone?

I do, but she does not get it.

She is very innocent, sometimes (like, almost all the time) we have to explain her the jokes and puns we say, go figure.

Well, you're done, but you can try and give it a small little push...

I have to add that there would be a Mrs. AJ is she wasn't a JW.

As for my situation..
I directly told her (not would be Mrs. AJ) that I don't like her, she said that it is ok, but now she became too distant..

Victory?

Shortly after the date of my last quote she got closer to me and she just wouldn't leave me alone.

Now she joined the same group as me and just keeps telling me that she can't wait to see me and keeps updating her facebook status with a countdown of days to see "him".

I didn't ask for this

 

[Speedy Samurai]

Doing what on purpose ?

How is she begging me unless I have a different interpretation of begging ?

The clock is ticking. If you don't start acting like you're in a relationship with this girl you soon won't be.

 

[TVR27]

Doing what on purpose ?

The clock is ticking. If you don't start acting like you're in a relationship with this girl you soon won't be.

Are you saying I can act like I'm in a relationship with her and then she would know that she is what I want ?

 

[phillgt2002]

Are you saying I can act like I'm in a relationship with her and then she would know that she is what I want ?

Yes, just do something that states that you are interested in being in a relationship.

Your denseness is turning my brain into a fatigued muscle.

Please, do something to finally end this.

 

[INEEDNAWZZZ]

^ This.

No offence, but it's actually irritating me now. Like there's naïvety and there's just being plain blind. I'm surprised she's even still at that stage.

 

[phillgt2002]

I'm currently indifferent about this girl now.

I think she has lost interest in even talking to me now, but that's an observation. We'll see how it goes the next few days, but it doesn't seem like much.

It's not like I really care much, but those eyes..

Also, I haven't made any real attempts of speaking to her, and that's mainly because she was the one speaking to me, so maybe I should treat this as verbal volleyball.

 

[TJ13]

My year started off on the rocks. Then it got a bit better, Warmer weather to where you would want to be outside for once. Then it got cold and snowed in feet. (Well not feet) and figured I would see what I can get. Got an IM from someone that I had no idea on who. Started talking. been talking now for just about 2 weeks. Had some long conversations over the phone of nearly an hour plus.
She called me her lover and now she wants this to go on for a long time, if it goes as well as it has been and everything lines up we might be getting together over the July 4th week.
So now I guess I can safely say I am in a relationship with a 42 year old

 

[V0RT3X]

I am such a paranoid, over thinking moron sometimes. Okay, all the time. There is a girl i work with who is beautiful, smart and sweet, and i can't stop thinking about her. Of course these thoughts are over paranoid delusions most likely. I know she doesn't have a boyfriend (at least not since i heard last about a month ago) and we talk occasionally, mostly about work, and often exchange smiles in the hallway. I wanted to ask her out all week, so I wouldn't be alone on Valentines day, but i was such a nervous wreak today, i couldn't even consider it. Even just thinking about asking her out got me worried. I thought at least talk to her before you leave. Something along the lines of, "any plans for the weekend?" Couldn't even do that. Maybe I am just putting way too much pressure on myself, but I think i feel worse now than I would if she had said no.

 

[CinnamonOD]

Received a letter from the now annoying friend that wants me to be her boyfriend; it's in an envelope.

But I went to watch deadpool with another girl so I'm not sure if I want to read it.

The envelope has some effort put into it.

 

[Team THRT Drift]

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[CinnamonOD]

@Team THRT Drift

You won this thread.

I decided to open the envelope and it had a really long letter and lots of dark chocolate (my favorite, but I didn't eat them).

It had stuff that I already know and photos I didn't knew that existed.

 

[Team THRT Drift]

@Team THRT Drift

You won this thread.

I decided to open the envelope and it had a really long letter and lots of dark chocolate (my favorite, but I didn't eat them).

It had stuff that I already know and photos I didn't knew that existed.

Thank you bud.

Also that for me is setting off all kinds of sirens and alarms in my head. Extreme creeper alert.

 

[CinnamonOD]

I admit that it might be getting out of hand. But there's nothing I can do for now, just wait until the semester is over and she goes to her career and I go to mine.

 

[Obelisk]

@AJHG1000 You may want to consider a restraining order if it continues.

Anyways - time to hear this young lad's misfortunes. (Warning: online dating and an idiot)

So about...6 or 7 years ago, when I was roughly 15, there was an application on the Nintendo DSi called Flipnote Studio, which was complemented by an online service called Hatena, which is essentially a mini-YouTube. Except the community was rotten as hell.

Around this time, I was looking around through various animations and came across this user named Roxie who happened to have a very active "chat room" (read: designated flipnote for slowchatting, etc). I popped in and started talking to everyone in there. I made a few friends here and there but Roxie remained elusive - I had become a fan of her stuff after seeing the flipnotes she did.

After about 3-4 weeks of mucking about in her chatrooms, she made an appearance. I was very quick to introduce myself to her, being her fan and all that. She was pretty nice and respectful, and so we became friends. After about 3 months, I decided to confess to her. Whether this was just teenage hormones or real affection I'll never know... Anyways, I confessed to her, and it turns out she took a liking to me quicker than I did her, and we hit it off. Exchanged numbers and used SMS apps so that people didn't see our conversations.

No need for the details here - we were pretty happy for the most part...

Then the fighting started. For some reason, she started just chewing me out on and off over the small things. Constant break ups and get-togethers over a period of two or three years. And then after one particular fight where I had actually gotten incredibly ticked off at all of the abuse, she sent me a nasty message through her younger cousin:
(I do not remember the message itself, so this is paraphrased)

"Go burn in hell you sick b:censored:d."

I showed my parents and they were unbelievably pissed.

Two things to note now: Her name is Tracey, and she lives in Cocoa, Florida (I live in MA).

So a few months pass by and Tracey and I have started talking again. It turns out I'm going to Cocoa Beach for a family trip that summer, and we talked about meeting up somewhere just to say hi and get to know each other's faces.

The vacation comes around, and on that Sunday morning, I remembered that she had choir that afternoon. We were near her church so I asked her if we could meet there before her practice. She agreed.

I spent 20 minutes with my heart beating out of my chest, and I see her and her mother arrive. The mother goes back out to pick up some stuff and I approach her.

"Hey...Tracey?"

She turned around and her face lit up.

"Oh, hi Doug!"

We had a nice conversation and traded a few small trinkets we brought with us. I went home, and when I looked at my phone later that night she had gone bananas for me again. This time, I was a bit skeptical and decided not to accept. I was right - a week later, she had gone evil again.

Only this time, she threatened to file a restraining order against me for "being abusive and terrible". Um, what? I didn't do anything wrong. She was the aggressor the whole time.

To this day, I think that girl was secretly psychotic. Even now, when her name comes up, I just go from "calm" to "on the brink of losing my 🤬" in 1.2 seconds.


Second story - just a few months after Tracey

I met another girl through the same app, this one named Yessi.

She was a rumble-and-tumble Hispanic tomboy from the Bronx, and had a laundry list of genetic disorders. (more on that later).

But she turned out to be quite a nice and sweet girl, and far more loyal and respectful than Tracey. We played games as much as we physically could, and talked every day. After a few months in, she told me about her biggest issue - she had neurofibromatosis type 1 and was very insecure about herself because of it. At this point, I really didn't feel that the NF1 was an issue since she was pretty much healthy otherwise and I was more than willing to deal with it.
This relationship was far more stable, despite the occasional disagreement. We made it a year and a half and then things started to get rotten.

She stopped being happy and just ignored every attempt I made to figure out the problem and every attempt at cheering her up.

"It's easy. Just talk to me!"

I have been. And you're shutting me out. Not only that, but side effects of her NF1 had started landing her in the hospital more than usual. I was worried sick and kept trying to talk to her at least so that she'd cheer up or at least smile again.

"Just talk to me."

I am!

And then a few months later (about 3 or 4 months ago) she told me she wanted to just be friends. By the time she asked, I had burned out and stopped caring about the relationship. It was easy to just say yes and be done with it.

But -- things still somehow got worse.

She stopped talking to me and her other friends. We all tried to get through to her.

One day, I just sent her a good morning message and another text about some game stuff (CoD: AW DLC).

"And?"

And what?

"Is that all you wanted to talk to me about?"

Just like that, she went from being the sweet girl I spent a year and a half with to another...Well, let's say evil.

A few weeks after that she started messaging me about her "bae", some guy she met in League of Legends. I didn't care about him. Two months ago, her friend told me the guy was shady so I confronted her because I was worried about her. The resulting fight turned sour and she permanently blocked me. I'm sure she absolutely hates my guts now.

And just like that, I'm single.

Y'know, FML.

 

[Driving Park]

@Latvija27

So I found a Unicorn. A girl that is willing to put up with my car BS because well... she's a car girl.

Best post in this thread. That's legit.👍

 

[CinnamonOD]

@AJHG1000 You may want to consider a restraining order if it continues.

Anyways - time to hear this young lad's misfortunes. (Warning: online dating and an idiot)

So about...6 or 7 years ago, when I was roughly 15, there was an application on the Nintendo DSi called Flipnote Studio, which was complemented by an online service called Hatena, which is essentially a mini-YouTube. Except the community was rotten as hell.

Around this time, I was looking around through various animations and came across this user named Roxie who happened to have a very active "chat room" (read: designated flipnote for slowchatting, etc). I popped in and started talking to everyone in there. I made a few friends here and there but Roxie remained elusive - I had become a fan of her stuff after seeing the flipnotes she did.

After about 3-4 weeks of mucking about in her chatrooms, she made an appearance. I was very quick to introduce myself to her, being her fan and all that. She was pretty nice and respectful, and so we became friends. After about 3 months, I decided to confess to her. Whether this was just teenage hormones or real affection I'll never know... Anyways, I confessed to her, and it turns out she took a liking to me quicker than I did her, and we hit it off. Exchanged numbers and used SMS apps so that people didn't see our conversations.

No need for the details here - we were pretty happy for the most part...

Then the fighting started. For some reason, she started just chewing me out on and off over the small things. Constant break ups and get-togethers over a period of two or three years. And then after one particular fight where I had actually gotten incredibly ticked off at all of the abuse, she sent me a nasty message through her younger cousin:
(I do not remember the message itself, so this is paraphrased)

"Go burn in hell you sick b:censored:d."

I showed my parents and they were unbelievably pissed.

Two things to note now: Her name is Tracey, and she lives in Cocoa, Florida (I live in MA).

So a few months pass by and Tracey and I have started talking again. It turns out I'm going to Cocoa Beach for a family trip that summer, and we talked about meeting up somewhere just to say hi and get to know each other's faces.

The vacation comes around, and on that Sunday morning, I remembered that she had choir that afternoon. We were near her church so I asked her if we could meet there before her practice. She agreed.

I spent 20 minutes with my heart beating out of my chest, and I see her and her mother arrive. The mother goes back out to pick up some stuff and I approach her.

"Hey...Tracey?"

She turned around and her face lit up.

"Oh, hi Doug!"

We had a nice conversation and traded a few small trinkets we brought with us. I went home, and when I looked at my phone later that night she had gone bananas for me again. This time, I was a bit skeptical and decided not to accept. I was right - a week later, she had gone evil again.

Only this time, she threatened to file a restraining order against me for "being abusive and terrible". Um, what? I didn't do anything wrong. She was the aggressor the whole time.

To this day, I think that girl was secretly psychotic. Even now, when her name comes up, I just go from "calm" to "on the brink of losing my 🤬" in 1.2 seconds.


Second story - just a few months after Tracey

I met another girl through the same app, this one named Yessi.

She was a rumble-and-tumble Hispanic tomboy from the Bronx, and had a laundry list of genetic disorders. (more on that later).

But she turned out to be quite a nice and sweet girl, and far more loyal and respectful than Tracey. We played games as much as we physically could, and talked every day. After a few months in, she told me about her biggest issue - she had neurofibromatosis type 1 and was very insecure about herself because of it. At this point, I really didn't feel that the NF1 was an issue since she was pretty much healthy otherwise and I was more than willing to deal with it.
This relationship was far more stable, despite the occasional disagreement. We made it a year and a half and then things started to get rotten.

She stopped being happy and just ignored every attempt I made to figure out the problem and every attempt at cheering her up.

"It's easy. Just talk to me!"

I have been. And you're shutting me out. Not only that, but side effects of her NF1 had started landing her in the hospital more than usual. I was worried sick and kept trying to talk to her at least so that she'd cheer up or at least smile again.

"Just talk to me."

I am!

And then a few months later (about 3 or 4 months ago) she told me she wanted to just be friends. By the time she asked, I had burned out and stopped caring about the relationship. It was easy to just say yes and be done with it.

But -- things still somehow got worse.

She stopped talking to me and her other friends. We all tried to get through to her.

One day, I just sent her a good morning message and another text about some game stuff (CoD: AW DLC).

"And?"

And what?

"Is that all you wanted to talk to me about?"

Just like that, she went from being the sweet girl I spent a year and a half with to another...Well, let's say evil.

A few weeks after that she started messaging me about her "bae", some guy she met in League of Legends. I didn't care about him. Two months ago, her friend told me the guy was shady so I confronted her because I was worried about her. The resulting fight turned sour and she permanently blocked me. I'm sure she absolutely hates my guts now.

And just like that, I'm single.

Y'know, FML.

Well, I've never trusted online dating, so I have never used it, because you don't get to know the people you're interacting with.
_______________
To be fair, it's not that bad, I've talked to her friends so they could try to get her to meet another guy.

 

[Obelisk]

Well, I've never trusted online dating, so I have never used it, because you don't get to know the people you're interacting with.

To be fair, it's not that bad, I've talked to her friends so they could try to get her to meet another guy.

Safe to say, I've learned my lesson after two psychotic girls.

 

[FoRiZon]

-delete-

 

[INEEDNAWZZZ]

Anyways - time to hear this young lad's misfortunes. (Warning: online dating and an idiot)

Long distance relationships (especially if you're fairly young) very rarely work out.

With a lot of things relating to women and relationships, I find that you can save yourself a lot of stress if you know when it's time to stop trying and just give up. It's all well and good trying to fix things, but it gets to a point where it'll never go back to normal, at least in the (admittedly very limited) experiences I've had. Ask yourself, is someone who manages to upset you all the time just by trying to speak to them really someone you want to be with?

---

In Van Halen-tine's Day spirit, I may as well pitch in what's been going on in my love life, and it's sort of related to the advice I've just posted above. I mentioned about two pages ago that there's been a 'will they, won't they?' type deal that's been going on with me and a girl I've been speaking to. I tried talking to her about something (personal but nothing 'dark' or that important, not to mention completely unrelated to her) and I got given this whole 'oh you can message any time!' spiel. After I explained what was up, she just got very blunt, and promptly stopped replying.

I tried to figure out what I'd said or done to cause this, but I didn't want to message again in case she was still annoyed. She tends to this very often, and usually apologises, but recently it doesn't get acknowledged at all anymore. That's when it finally hit me. All of my time and efforts are just wasted on her. Like I said, we're both aware that things may or may not happen; neither of us have really spoken about it but we're both kind of aware there's something there. We're quite happy as friends normally, and she's great when she wants to spend some time talking to me. But even that's dying out now. Last heard from her over a month ago now. I've just decided to move on from her. She's quite happy without me, friend or otherwise, and I'm not sure I really need that someone like that right now. There are a bunch of other contextual areas I've deliberately missed for the sake of time, so I realise it seems a bit of a rash decision. But yeah, I'm now fully aware of what's happening and I don't like it.

 

[Maxx2013]

So I got asked out by a 15 year old today. I'm 26. In her defense, I look 18, although she knew my real age.

Regarding online dating, I feel like it's better to meet people on Facebook. I've definitely had more success with meeting girls on Facebook rather than on dating sites.

 

[CinnamonOD]

So I got asked out by a 15 year old today. I'm 26. In her defense, I look 18, although she knew my real age.

Regarding online dating, I feel like it's better to meet people on Facebook. I've definitely had more success with meeting girls on Facebook rather than on dating sites.

I also look younger but it is because of my short height and sometimes I get messages through facebook by girls younger than that.
I just tell them that this is not how they want to get a partner and tell them my age, they just go away..

 

[Kitten]

@Latvija27

Spoiler: I found myself a keeper!

So I found a Unicorn. A girl that is willing to put up with my car BS because well... she's a car girl.

I didn't want to post anything until I knew it was going to get serious and it has! Been going strong for nearly four months now. Met her and hooked up near the end of November.

Backstory:

I don't have a season parking pass at my Uni so everyday I pay the meter maid. I found the only parking lot on campus that is 10 dollars until 7 AM the next morning but it's a bit far. Everywhere else is $15.

So any day that I've paid $10 I make sure to pass my parking pass on to a fellow student, or whoever is going to park at this lot. No matter how 🤬 my day has been, I try to pass it on. *sometimes no one is there to give it to*

On this day, I had my last lab session and was having a pretty crappy day; finals were coming up, some friends turned out to be leeches, I was stressing over everything... Life was just slowly grinding to a halt for me. I'm exhausted, dragging my feet to my car. I hear tires rolling behind me followed by a quick horn.

I turned around, and I had a pretty angry look at the time. I mean, you're alone, depressed, just thinking about your next steps in life in what felt like a pretty empty lot, and suddenly you're startled by a horn.

So I turned around, my heart sank and my jaw dropped. This absolutely stunning brunette steps out of her car, and walks towards me with the cutest smile I had ever seen.

"Hey, sorry, I'm kind of in a hurry. Are you leaving?"

I'm still awestruck, staring like a dunce. Took me a few seconds before I snapped out of it and replied. I was just lost in these mesmerizing electric blue eyes.

I said, "Yeah I'm just about to head out"

She's relieved to hear that as she had spent 30 minutes driving up and down the campus looking for a spot. She apparently saw me walking to the lot and stalked me all the way to my car. I have never been more flattered


So I said "Okay lemme move my car real quick."

and she hits me with "Is that an '05??"

I didn't really believe she just asked me such a question. So I assumed I didn't understand the question, or misheard something so I said "Sorry, didn't catch that."

"Oh your Audi. Is it an '05 or...?"




"Umm... hah... close, it's an '04."


"Oh dang. I thought I had it. I LOVE the A8s. Is this... what trim is this again?"

"It's the A8L..."


"Oooh the extended wheelbase right?? I've never seen one before! I always see the regular A8s but never the longer one. It's the 4.2 in there right?"

I'm smiling like an idiot. I couldn't believe I had found a unicorn. Or rather, a unicorn found me.


As we're talking I realise she owns an orange Audi TT AND IT'S A MANUAL!!!!! I have seen this TT before. Multiple times actually, but the tints didn't help so I never saw the driver. She had completely forgot about her rendezvous with her friends and we were just talking for ages about Audis, other brands, tracks, meet ups, etc. After some time I move my car out of the spot and let her park her car.

I reach back in and get the parking pass. I'm handing it over and she's being courteous saying things like "No it's okay" and all that, but eventually she takes it.

I can't pass this opportunity up, I need more time with this chick. I know if I leave now, I would lose the best thing that's ever happened to me. So I asked how far away her meeting was. Turns out it was all the way on the other side of the campus.

This was my chance. My last shot. So I offered her a ride. She gladly accepted it, and we were on our way. For once in my life, I was driving under the speed limit. Taking my time. I was trying to milk this moment as much as possible.

Please dear God don't let me screw this up!

We continue talking, having a blast. We're really hitting it off. She's digging me as a person, my quirkiness, god-awful puns, etc. She likes me for who I am.

We reach the destination and I am trying to look happy when inside I am just screaming. I still wanted to spend more time with this girl. It was over too soon. I wanted to get lost in her eyes one more time.

Then she says "We should hang out sometime!"

My heart practically beat out of my chest. I was the happiest man at that moment, but I wanted to stay cool. Don't break.. don't break.. act natural, don't act desperate. Time this right, dammit!


So naturally I said, I would LOVE to hang out with you!

"GREAT! How about tomorrow around three???"

"Umm sure.. I-I-I don't have a way of- where do you want to meet?"

"How about the cafeteria by *insert college name* Here's my number. Call me now so I can have yours. Name's Audrey by the way."

We've been together ever since. For once, I am actually happy to be arguing about cars and parts

I am jealous. Because my gf hates my car life, and she doesnt know how they work. And she doesnt really like cars that much, she says "Ferrari Enzo looks like a boat, and its ugly", and she thinks racing sims are stupid, so i havnt been playing much of them at all. She gets car sick easily too.

 

[V0RT3X]

@Latvija27

Spoiler: I found myself a keeper!

So I found a Unicorn. A girl that is willing to put up with my car BS because well... she's a car girl.

I didn't want to post anything until I knew it was going to get serious and it has! Been going strong for nearly four months now. Met her and hooked up near the end of November.

Backstory:

I don't have a season parking pass at my Uni so everyday I pay the meter maid. I found the only parking lot on campus that is 10 dollars until 7 AM the next morning but it's a bit far. Everywhere else is $15.

So any day that I've paid $10 I make sure to pass my parking pass on to a fellow student, or whoever is going to park at this lot. No matter how 🤬 my day has been, I try to pass it on. *sometimes no one is there to give it to*

On this day, I had my last lab session and was having a pretty crappy day; finals were coming up, some friends turned out to be leeches, I was stressing over everything... Life was just slowly grinding to a halt for me. I'm exhausted, dragging my feet to my car. I hear tires rolling behind me followed by a quick horn.

I turned around, and I had a pretty angry look at the time. I mean, you're alone, depressed, just thinking about your next steps in life in what felt like a pretty empty lot, and suddenly you're startled by a horn.

So I turned around, my heart sank and my jaw dropped. This absolutely stunning brunette steps out of her car, and walks towards me with the cutest smile I had ever seen.

"Hey, sorry, I'm kind of in a hurry. Are you leaving?"

I'm still awestruck, staring like a dunce. Took me a few seconds before I snapped out of it and replied. I was just lost in these mesmerizing electric blue eyes.

I said, "Yeah I'm just about to head out"

She's relieved to hear that as she had spent 30 minutes driving up and down the campus looking for a spot. She apparently saw me walking to the lot and stalked me all the way to my car. I have never been more flattered


So I said "Okay lemme move my car real quick."

and she hits me with "Is that an '05??"

I didn't really believe she just asked me such a question. So I assumed I didn't understand the question, or misheard something so I said "Sorry, didn't catch that."

"Oh your Audi. Is it an '05 or...?"




"Umm... hah... close, it's an '04."


"Oh dang. I thought I had it. I LOVE the A8s. Is this... what trim is this again?"

"It's the A8L..."


"Oooh the extended wheelbase right?? I've never seen one before! I always see the regular A8s but never the longer one. It's the 4.2 in there right?"

I'm smiling like an idiot. I couldn't believe I had found a unicorn. Or rather, a unicorn found me.


As we're talking I realise she owns an orange Audi TT AND IT'S A MANUAL!!!!! I have seen this TT before. Multiple times actually, but the tints didn't help so I never saw the driver. She had completely forgot about her rendezvous with her friends and we were just talking for ages about Audis, other brands, tracks, meet ups, etc. After some time I move my car out of the spot and let her park her car.

I reach back in and get the parking pass. I'm handing it over and she's being courteous saying things like "No it's okay" and all that, but eventually she takes it.

I can't pass this opportunity up, I need more time with this chick. I know if I leave now, I would lose the best thing that's ever happened to me. So I asked how far away her meeting was. Turns out it was all the way on the other side of the campus.

This was my chance. My last shot. So I offered her a ride. She gladly accepted it, and we were on our way. For once in my life, I was driving under the speed limit. Taking my time. I was trying to milk this moment as much as possible.

Please dear God don't let me screw this up!

We continue talking, having a blast. We're really hitting it off. She's digging me as a person, my quirkiness, god-awful puns, etc. She likes me for who I am.

We reach the destination and I am trying to look happy when inside I am just screaming. I still wanted to spend more time with this girl. It was over too soon. I wanted to get lost in her eyes one more time.

Then she says "We should hang out sometime!"

My heart practically beat out of my chest. I was the happiest man at that moment, but I wanted to stay cool. Don't break.. don't break.. act natural, don't act desperate. Time this right, dammit!


So naturally I said, I would LOVE to hang out with you!

"GREAT! How about tomorrow around three???"

"Umm sure.. I-I-I don't have a way of- where do you want to meet?"

"How about the cafeteria by *insert college name* Here's my number. Call me now so I can have yours. Name's Audrey by the way."

We've been together ever since. For once, I am actually happy to be arguing about cars and parts

I think you just lived dreams that all of us have had at some point. Shes into cars, which is great, but she is pretty, kind and very forward so awkward people like us don't have to toil with whether or not to make a move? That really is the dream. 👍

 

[Driving Park]

In praise of online dating, I have had a successful multi-year relationship that began on a dating site. It was mutually ended over something that wouldn't have been different if it had been a traditional relationship.

That said, although I find it a perfectly viable option, I'm not currently a member of any.

 

[Obelisk]

In praise of online dating, I have had a successful multi-year relationship that began on a dating site. It was mutually ended over something that wouldn't have been different if it had been a traditional relationship.

That said, although I find it a perfectly viable option, I'm not currently a member of any.

Like my colleague Vic Reign says, your mileage may vary.

 

[Team THRT Drift]

I personally don't like online dating because the chats are too thought out.

"Hmm what can I say here? Oh I know..."

"Should I say that? Nah..."

"Ey man! She said _____. What should I say?"


Face to face is always better, IMO anyway. Don't mean to offend anyome but you get to know a person better face to face. Red flags go off immediately.


Whereas chatting online, those red flags don't pop up until it's too late.


Then again, different strokes for different folks.

 

[Anthony]

I need some ideas on where to take a girl out on a first date.

This girl is a colleague of mine, and although we've been working together for a while now, we don't know each other all that much. For that reason, I want to invite her somewhere that is as casual as possible, a place where we could just sit down and chat for a while to see if there's enough interest on both sides to continue.

A cafe would be a perfect spot, but I already tried inviting her to one after work last week and was turned down. However we finish work at 9PM, and I know that she has very controlling parents that wouldn't enjoy the idea of their daughter being out this late with some guy they never heard of, so I'm guessing that is the reason why.

I've been thinking of inviting her to a posh cafe on the weekend but at this point it doesn't seem like it would be a very original idea. Are there any other spots that I should consider?

 

[V0RT3X]

I need some ideas on where to take a girl out on a first date.

This girl is a colleague of mine, and although we've been working together for a while now, we don't know each other all that much. For that reason, I want to invite her somewhere that is as casual as possible, a place where we could just sit down and chat for a while to see if there's enough interest on both sides to continue.

A cafe would be a perfect spot, but I already tried inviting her to one after work last week and was turned down. However we finish work at 9PM, and I know that she has very controlling parents that wouldn't enjoy the idea of their daughter being out this late with some guy they never heard of, so I'm guessing that is the reason why.

I've been thinking of inviting her to a posh cafe on the weekend but at this point it doesn't seem like it would be a very original idea. Are there any other spots that I should consider?

A nice cafe is a safe choice I'd say. It's not too cheap and its pretty casual so you can talk and learn about each other. The only more casual place i can think of is a coffee shop, but seeing as it would be after 9 pm, I'd stick with a cafe type place.

Anyways, I am having such a hard time with this girl i work with, that i mentioned earlier. It's no fault of hers or anything, it's 100% me. I am just so damn nervous around her that i can't even work up the nerves to ask her a simple question about how her weekend was. Not to mention the fact that even though I am kind of avoiding her, every time i see her i do something stupid. Bumping into walls, saying something dumb, dropping things, it's starting to get out of hand. I have talked to her before but I suppose most of those conversations were initiated by her. It seems that we are both kind of shy, until one of us initiates the conversation, then we can talk no problem. I am probably putting too much pressure on myself, which is of course making me a nervous, clumsy stress case.