Mine is a low end card (slightly up from their min requirements) and I don't expect brilliance, but I had it running smoothly during the EA period, only Le Mans was an issue cos it was running out of VRAM so I got the weird AI-warping thing which looks like you have a bad ping. So I just never raced there, but I could race fine anywhere else. But then they changed it with an update near V1.0 release and it was horrific. Nvidia did new drivers and that helped solve it a bit but now its just there all the time and they have literally admitted on this discord that they haven't bothered looking into it because only 1 of their machines has had it briefly. But there are people with even 4000 and 5000 series cards having it. So its really random.
But I do agree with you, why these new games are resource hungry is just weird.